Aggrivated DUI

Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 07:02 pm Post Subject:

WOW....I bet you are scared....first if like you said you have NEVER been in any trouble, no prior dui, or accidents etc...none, zero, nada, not ever ever ever...then hopefully you will see no jail time....what about DFS? Have they not filed any child endangerment charges against you? or something? As for your daughter and the other children you hurt, well hopefully the other kids DID have insurance (Uninsured motorist bodily injury ) coverage, and that will help with their medical bills, that insurance company that pays that will come after you for repayment eventually as well as the damage to the vehicle, but sounds like they will know going in there isn't much chance of repayment...Do you own the vehicle? Is anyone else on the title or just you? What state do you live in? Who has custody of your daughter? You're sure no prior trouble?

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 01:07 am Post Subject:

If this is your first time in trouble I also think you will not be in as much trouble. I am glad that you see the errors in your ways. AC is not a necessity and is a far cry from an excuse to drive while drinking. I sense that you are sorry and hope things work out for your daughters sake (and yours). The drinking and driving rules have probaly changed since I seen anyone punished ( a few good years) but my brother got probation and had to go to classes for his first offense and he had wrecked his car too. No one in with him and he had insurance so this may change things.

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 01:55 am Post Subject: insurance

Being a single mom, myself, SCARED MOM..I can see you feel horrible about the entire situation. I don't know what state you live in, but, I live in PA. I know a few Moms ( and Dads) who were Drinking and Driving their kids in the car, got into accidents and had their kids taken away until they could proof ( to the courts..) that they saw the 'error of their ways' and proved themselves. Sounds like ( in a way..) that's what you need to do. How is your daughter now?? Yes.....kids WILL remember accidents like this. I'm REALLY anti-drinking and driving ( I can be very outspoken about this..). However...........reading your post does seem like your not making excuses and you want to 'solve' this issue ( I applaud you for this..) LORI..wanna ask something................with Uninsured Motorists Bodily Injury, is this 'automatically' in a Auto policy, or do you have to SPECIFICALLY ask for it? Hope you understand my meaning.

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:27 am Post Subject:

Scared Mom,

One thought, don't wait until the Court orders it... find a local AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) group and start attending meeting as soon & often as you can. Demonstrate an desire to prevent this from ever happening again.!!

One does not have to Hit Bottom and be an totally out of control Drunk to benefit from AA. There is a lot of knowledge about how alcohol affects the human mind and body, and helpful people that will and want to assist you.

Open your mind and stick around for awhile, give it a chance, often the Public perception of AA members and what they do is very misguided. There are NO Drunks at AA. There are only people recovering from a *past* and often regrettable drinking problem.

Its Free, no charge, only one requirement to join... "a desire to stop drinking".

FK,

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:34 am Post Subject:

Fred, that's the most beautiful post I've read in a long long time....thank you for that...(fyi, I quit drinking 4yrs ago this past june)....

OP, I agree you sound remorseful as well you should be, it's my nature to jump all over someone that did such a thing...but didnt' because I sense your pain....please please take Fred's advise, will also look good for court...but don't do it for that reason...ANYONE that will drive after even drinking one or two drinks with their babys in the car, has a drinking problem...period (IMO)...


SD, UM is a required coverage in most states, just like BI and PD, but not all..so if your state doesn't require it then you may have to ask for this coverage. It is written in limits just like BI coverage such as 25/50 etc. I think I have 100/300

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 12:09 pm Post Subject: insurance

Thanks, LORI. I'm gonna check it out. SCAREDMOM..it's never too late to live and learn...ain't that the truth!! Alot of good advice from people here. Hope things go OK for you. Would like to hear an 'update', though.

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 05:17 pm Post Subject: Scared Mom

I live in Phoenix AZ and I know that DUI have gotton much harsher in out state. I did also get an child endangerment charge for each child my own and the three teen in the other vehicle. Yes I do own my car and unfortuntly my ex husband is also on the title. As for my ex husband an I we share joint custody of our daughter and I'm so grateful towards him that he has been so supportive towards me through out this whole process he knows I made a mistake and would never put our daughter or any other childern in harms way. I'm not trying to get out of what I need to face I'm hoping to be able to keep my job so I can repay the victms for any damages I caused them and any court fees and fines. I also agree that I need to get my self in AA classes as well not to make it look good either I just know I have a problem. I know that drinking doesn't take away problems in fact it makes it worst I know that I see that with my actions this is something I never want to go through or put my family through ever again. I do need help I do I;m not an excessive drinker but in the past year I have dealt with a whole lot and found myself drinking more and more I didn't realize how out of control it got until all this happend. I hate that fact it took a tragity for me see to where I was headed and I know you can't drink away your problems. Causing hurt to my daughter and the other vitcems im extemly sorry for I think about it all the time I can't change what happend but I can and will get help for my daughter sake and to make sure something like this never happens again..

Posted: Fri Nov 21, 2008 05:31 pm Post Subject: Scared Mom

I'd like to thank you all for all of your advise. It has been very heloful towards me. Sometimes it's easy to reach out and other's for advise. Even though my family has always supported me through out this whole process I find it hard to open up to them. For one my grandmother is very ill and she takes bad news very hard and ends up getting sick. I hate them fact that my actions have cause lots of pain to those I love the most. But I also think about what this has caused to the victems involved also. I'm very loving caring person and I'm very upset at my self that this has happend. Well like I said I don't know what's going to happen it's in the judges hands. For now all I can do is get myself some help for my daughter sake because my actions are not the examples I want to be setting for my daughter I need to be a better mother for her and make better desicions and set better examples.

Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 04:50 am Post Subject: insurance

No, SCAREDMOM...you CAN'T change what happened. However.....you can learn from it and 'move on.' That's about all you CAN do......WHATEVER the outcome may be. Sometimes it takes tragedies, like this, to 'knock you in the face'..ya know? It REALLY sounds like you want to try to make this 'issue' right.

Posted: Sat Nov 22, 2008 08:31 am Post Subject:

Scared Mom, you have a very supportive family and you should thank the God for that. Its obvious from your post that your remorse is genuine. I hope the judge too will be considerate towards your situation. Stay positive with your intention to set a better example before your daughter. I'm sure that things will soon take a positive turn for you.